How to Have Good Sex Life, According to Best Experts
You're not quite sure how — or when — it happened. You used to have great sex at Raipur Escort Service, but suddenly it just isn't what it used to be. By 11 p.m. you're more interested in The Daily Show than in a steamy session with your partner (or yourself!). Even when you do work up the energy, sex feels so...predictable. The excitement, even the passion, are MIA.
The thing is, you like sex — a lot. And you love your partner. So what gives? "There are all kinds of emotional barriers to having good sex, from poor body image to boredom," says sex therapist Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center in Chicago and author of The Passion Prescription. "The good news is that you can get beyond them and reconnect with your sensuality."
Ready to light your fire? Here's how to have good sex (scratch that, great sex!) even when you feel like things have gone a little stale.
Like yourself naked.
Women who have the best sex lives feel good about their bodies, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a sex therapist in New York City and the author of Fearless Sex. "They see themselves as strong and sexy."
Unfortunately, according to Berman, up to 80 per cent of women in the United States suffer from a negative body image. "Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas," says Berman. "She carries that feeling into the bedroom, and when her partner's kissing her thighs, she's busy thinking about how she's self-conscious of them."
To boost your body confidence, give yourself a reality check. The next time you're at the store or in the gym, take a look around you at all the attractive women who are a variety of shapes and sizes. Remind yourself: There is no one ideal. Then ask your partner what they love about your body, and write it down. Read the list every morning. Finally, compliment yourself. At least once a week, stand in front of the mirror naked and focus on your favourite features—inside and out. Touch each part and say aloud what you like about it — this will help to reinforce your feelings, says Berman. (Exercise can also do wonders for helping you love your body, too.)
Make the mind-body connection.
Think about those moments in your life when you feel completely in tune with your body. Maybe it's after you finish a long run — your blood is pumping and you're relaxed and exhilarated. Or Call Girls in Raipur perhaps it's when you do yoga and achieve a mind-body meld. Chances are, this doesn't happen often enough.
"When a woman has a negative self-image, she tends to disconnect from how her body feels," says Berman. To reestablish the bond, do something that makes you feel good in your skin at least once a day — treat yourself to a massage, go apple picking with your kids, wear the jeans that give you an ego boost the minute you slide them on. "Whenever you're tuned in to your body and what it's capable of, you're naturally more sensual," says Davidson.
Swear off sex.
It's extreme, yes, but it's still one of the ways to have the best sex. That's because when you tell yourself you can't have something, you want it even more. The same is true in the bedroom — especially if you and your partner have been together for a while and sex has become automatic. Instead of focusing on the end game, learn to enjoy the sensuality of sex. Tease yourself — and your partner. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other's bodies. "When you're the one doing the touching, concentrate on communicating love and sensuality to your partner," says Berman. "When you're on the receiving end, let yourself feel the sensations of every stroke. This will help you reconnect with each other on a whole new level." Not only that but by the time you're done, you'll be so excited you'll barely be able to stand it. Hold off (if you can!) for a night or two, to let the anticipation build.
Add a few thrills.
After a few years together, it's easy to get lazy in bed. But you both deserve better. "If you don't put energy into your relationship, you won't get energy out of it," says Davidson.
Research shows that new and adventurous activities may stimulate the brain to produce dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in sexual desire. Do something daring outside the bedroom and dopamine levels may skyrocket — along with your sex Escorts Service Raipur drive. Challenge your partner to a heart-pounding activity like rock climbing or white-water rafting (or go pump some iron). "Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had at the beginning of your relationship when you couldn't get enough of each other," says Berman.
Tell them how to turn you on.
"Your partner likely wants to be your knight in shining armour when it comes to sex — they're eager for you to tell them what feels good," says Berman. "The problem is, so many women are out of touch with their bodies they have no idea what to say." Help them, and yourself, by showing them what turns you on. Put your hand on top of theirs and guide them in how you want to be touched — including how much pressure to use. When you're ready to move on to oral sex or to bring in a few sex toys, speak up. This is the only way they're going to know what works for you, according to Berman.